Keep Growingby Clinicians at Ganey Counseling on 04/23/15
I decided this year to try and
plant a vegetable garden and I’m working hard to get the plants strong and
ready to be transferred outside. I took care to mix the soil, scoop it into
tiny cups, and gently place the seeds down into the soil. I watered them
carefully, covered them, and then placed them in an area where they will get plenty
of sunlight. I check on my little seedlings each day noticing that some of the
seeds have germinated quickly while others have yet to make an appearance.
When my friend had told me how
quickly tomato and zucchini seeds usually sprout I began to wonder why mine
hadn’t yet come up. I considered starting over again but I figured I would
adjust a few things and wait just a bit longer. The next day I had 7 little
plants pushing through the dirt. I then began waiting on the peppers to sprout,
wondering if any adjustments might help them grow.
Part of the difficulty of planting a garden from seeds is getting them to start growing in the first place. Similarly, in counseling, sometimes the hard work is just getting the “seeds” to germinate. We’ve got to work hard to plant the seeds of change and then keep attending to them until we start to see growth. We have to keep practicing new ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. It requires a lot of mental and emotional effort and sometimes it can feel exhausting or even hopeless.
Perhaps you’re working hard and
not yet seeing the full rewards of your labor. Like myself, you’re staring at
the “dirt” and wondering why there is no growth. Sometimes when we are working
hard and not seeing growth we need to learn a few more things or try things a
little differently. Sometimes, however, we just need to give it more time. Keep
working hard; keep tending to your heart and the new things you are learning. The
point that you may be ready to give up may be the exact moment when new life begins
to push its way through.
Submitted by Sarah E. Loew, MS